Getting off on Facebook

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Single Not Desperate

When I decided to get back into the local dating scene and used up every resource available on Match.com, one of my girlfriends suggested I join one of her dating groups on Facebook. Facebook? There are dating groups on there? Yes, there sure are! The one I’m a member of is marked secret, so in order to get in, you have to know someone already a member.  

I’m okay single

by Single Not Desperate

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I’ve been absent for a while now and wanted to catch everyone up on my life as a dating, single mom. I’ve had a few dates, but nothing like the whirlwind it was when I first got back into the dating pool.

I think I’ve decided that I like being single. There’s no one to answer to except my child and I’m free to see anyone I choose. I’m okay with that.

There’s no law that says you have to be attached to someone in order to live a full life. It took me a while to get to this place, but I’m comfortable here now. If someone does come along and it works out, I’ll let you know.

Until then I am still single and I am not even close to feeling desperate. I hope that’s where you find yourself one of these days too.

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Pickin’s are slim!

by Single Not Desperate

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I have decided that Match.com is either feast or famine when it applies to a small town. You either get a lot of matches, or you get nothing at all. I am in the nothing at all category at the moment.

When you sign on to your account, Match.com will offer you 5 selections that match your criteria. Lately all I’ve been getting is You have no selections today!

I logged onto the local bulletin board to see what was happening in town. I was perusing the various topics and reading some of the funny comments when I notice the face of one of my friends smiling back at me from the column on the right. Her picture was there under Small Town is Dating! along with about 5 other pictures for a local dating site. Hey! That’s really getting your name and face out there! I kind of liked that idea. I might just sign up if this Match.com dry spell continues. 

Stay at Home Dad

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by Single Not Desperate

I was talking to one of my male friends the other day about him being a stay at home Dad. He lost his job a while back and his wife has taken over the role of breadwinner in the household.

He was so excited at the prospect of staying at home, lounging on the sofa eating bonbons, and waiting for the little wifey to come home after working her butt off all day. This was going to be a breeze!

His cradle was gently rocked after the first week. Bonbons still sat in the box uneaten and the sofa now has a puke stain on it.

He told me that he has no idea how women have been doing this for decades. He feels so 1950′s. He can’t come and go as he pleases and every trip out of the house is a grand production. Remember to take the car with the car seats, pack sippy cups, but no milk, have enough diapers, toys and puke towels. Park in the shade so the car doesn’t get too hot. And that’s just getting to the desired locati0n.

Once you’re in the store, there’s always a mini meltdown over sugar cereal or a toy that the kid doesn’t need, but WANTS. And forget going anywhere he might want to go like the video store or a sporting goods store. There’s no way he could keep an eye on the kid and shop too. He just doesn’t have the patience.

I asked him if he felt like a caged bird. He said he feels worse. 

I wanna go to Daddy’s, and you can’t come!

by Single Not Desperate

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Dating when you have children, especially small ones, can be difficult. Dating someone with children, especially small ones, can be equally difficult. How do you manage this delicate situation?

I found myself in a predicament recently when my new paramour brought his 3 year old daughter along on one of our outings. She made it very apparent that I was an intrusion on their day. Hiding behind his pants leg she clearly stated, as only a 3 year old can, “I want to go home to my Daddy’s house and I don’t want you to come.” Yes, this made me feel like a million bucks. Especially when Daddy didn’t correct her.